Who Are They

Hi everyone:
I have found in my life there are some people that are just down right not right for us. It is my opinion, if someone is not cheering you on and challenging you to be your best they are not the right people to be in your life. Les Brown says, " You can go a lot farther with someone running with you then you can with someone jumping on your back for a ride." So true. I think we all have people in our life's like that at one point or another. The question is what do we do about it? If it is a family member how do we deal with that. I think the best thing to do is work on ourselves. I tell my clients that we can't help what other do or say. But we can help how it impacts us emotionally. If we have negative people around us sooner or later it is going to affect us if we are not doing something to counter act the negative talk. The negative talk of others becomes our own negative self talk. This can put up super sized road blocks for us to be able to be successful or just plain grow. I personally try to stay away from these kind of people, however sometimes that can be a difficult thing to do. I say counter the negative with the positive. If you are doing some of the exercises I have written in my blog I would like to know how this is working for you. We can make our own reality. You have the power. Remember that. Just ask yourself. Are these people inspiring you, are they encouraging

you to be the best you can be? Just food for thought.
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Addiction The Mask I Wear

Hi Everyone:
This blog is about masking your pain with self medicating. By that I mean using drugs or alcohol to avoid feeling the pain after a trauma. This happens often unfortunately. Sometimes it happens by accident. When we are on prescription medication it is easy to get addicted. When I was in the substance abuse field I took a survey of the women that came into the facility to deal with their addiction. I found 95 percent of the women that came in their had some kind of abuse issue. In my women's abuse group I found that 70 percent of them had never talked to anyone about it before the group. That is shocking. The moral of the story is self medicating is not the answer. We have to deal with our issues. Scarey as it may be. We can never give up. Abuse is not your fault. I have found that masking the pain is like putting a bandage on a gaping wound. Sooner or later we have to deal with the underline issues of what is really going on. We heal in community, please find your community and get some help. Your life is to valuable. Just food for thought.
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Stop That Negative Self Talk

Hi Everyone:
My blog today is about negative self talk. We all experience it. at one time in our lives. Where does that little voice inside us come from? Well from what I have read and experienced personally it comes from what we hear from others. That becomes our belief in what we can achieve or accomplish. In my case at least because I was brought up in a negative environment that negative talk like, your stupid, you will never amount to anything resonated in my head for years. I did not put two and two together for a long time. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship. Let me clarify something. Verbal abuse is still abuse. When you are demanded constantly it becomes your view of your self worth. You respond accordingly in your daily life. Like attracts like. Meaning if you feel you are not worth anything that is the kind of person you attract. It happens like magic. I know from experience it happened to me constantly. It wasn't until I figured out how to get past the negative self talk that things started to change for me. Here is some of the things I did. First thing I did was to understand what was going on with me. I have covered that already. Moving on. The next thing is to start to reprogram the negative into the positive. How you may ask, simple everyone time a negative talk inside me said I couldn't do something I countered with a positive YES I can. I literally shouted my negative self talk down. No out loud of course. I did not want to look like I was loon. But in my head I sure did, loud and clear. Guess what it the negative talk shut up. Next I reprogrammed myself with positive affirmations. I used as what we call in NLP an anchor. By this I mean putting my index finger and my thumb together and saying a positive affirmation that depicted what I wanted to happen. Do this often, in fact do it every time you think of it. Next when I went to bed I visualized what I wanted in full blown color and vivid detail. I did this because this in essence tells my subconscious what I want. I have said over and over the subconscious does not know what is reality and what is not. Do this consistently. I do this just before I go to sleep. This is  really self hypnosis. Try it and get back with me. Let me know your progress. Don't give up. It won't work in a few day. You have to be consistent with it. But it will work. If you are a survivor of abuse this will do wonders for you to help regain your sense of control and self-esteem.
Just food for thought

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