Living with Fear

Hi Everyone:
Hope everyone is well today. Today's blog is about fear. When we have a trauma we go into fight or flight mode. But as well we can go into freeze response. This means the trauma stays in the body. It is in the electrical system as well in our energy systems of our body. In the wild an animal that is being  hunted by a predator will run and if they feel they can no longer run they play dead. If they are lucky enough to escape the predator eating them, they get up and shake. The tremors actually deplete the trauma out of their body's However we do not do that and so we hold those traumas in us. So when we have a traumatic event happen and do not address it, it will stay with us on a subconscious level and is stored in our bodies. We may not even realize it is still a part of us. When someone is attacked we may go into freeze response. Many feelings can result from this. Guilt, feeling like we should have fought back, anger that we did not have the strength at the time to fight back. How do we get rid of this freeze. EFT can help with that significantly. I gave you a web site before in my blog to take a look at. I hope all of you did that. It has been a proven fact that the mind and body are linked together in the sense of trauma if not addressed becoming a physical issue. In a recent blog I talked about doing a little test. I said think of something small and focus on that. You will get a feeling somewhere in your body. That is where the trauma is stored. This is where you need to focus on with the eft. If you are experiencing these things please seek out a professional. This will not go away by itself. I know I experienced panic attacks for many years. I wish I knew what the problem was and a way to fix it long before it got to an extreme level. And for the people that are reading this blog, remember if you are a victim of sexual assault or domestic violence or child abuse. It is not your fault.Get some help. Take your control back. Just food for thought. More on eft and hypnosis next time. Please feel free to comment on my blogs. I invite you to submit a response and let me know what you may want to see in my up coming blogs.
Until then have a wonderful week
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Stop Letting Fear Rule Your Life

Hi Everyone:
Hope you liked the last little thing I have sent you. I found it to be uplifting.This blog today will be about over coming fear.  Fear, we are born with only two fears, the fear of a loud noise and the fear of falling. All other fears are learned. Fear can be a debilitating thing. It can stop us from leaving an abusive situation or stop us from living the lives we want.
We tend to get into a comfort zone sometimes and even though the situation is not the best it is better than going out to the unknown. I found this to be true in trying to leave an abusive relationship. My feelings were this is bad, but what if I get myself into something that is even worse. Sometimes the fear is geared towards just not having enough self -confidence or self- esteem. I think the bottom line is fear is based on your belief systems. Do you believe you are capable of accomplishing anything or do you let fear rule your decisions. Again this is what you belief about yourself. I have talked before in other blogs about where our belief systems come from. I have also given you tools to be able to help yourself change those belief systems if they no longer fit who you are or who you want to be. My question to you is are you working at it? If not, ask yourself why. Are you afraid of success? Or are you afraid of failure. In my case it was a little bit of both. I let my fears rule me to the point I kept living my life in self destruct mode constantly. You see the blogs I write are from personal experience. It takes great courage sometimes to make that move to change. Change can be very scarey. But think of what that change can do not only for you but the people that are around you. If they see a change in you they themselves may be inspired and want to change as well. I can be a positive cycle. Think of how many people you may inspire and do great things for yourself as well. Just food for thought.
Stacey Giovanni, www. eftandnlp2.com

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Stress Hurts.

Hi Everyone:
Today's blog is about the impact of stress on the body and the mind. When we encounter
stress in our lives, we have many feelings that accompany that stress. Feelings of being overwhelmed, anger, feelings of having no control over the situation. which can lead to fear and anger. All of these feelings can take a toll on you physically if not addressed. As Veterans I am sure you can relate to these feelings. But as individuals as well we all encounter stress in our live. I comes with being human. The question is how do we deal with the stress in our lives. In my case at least I tend to be naturally high strung. That means that I have to work hard to relax and calm down when thing go wrong in my life. Stress if left unchecked can cause, headaches, high blood pressure and many more physical situations. Medication can only mask the problem. You may feel calm for a while as long as you continue to take those, however I am a firm believer in natural ways to deal with stress as well. The thing I want to emphasize here is you need to take some time for yourself. Meditation can do wonders. Find a quite place, take some deep breaths and put yourself in a place that has given you a sense of peace and happiness. I have found it helpful to get a sound machine. If the rain puts you in a state of peace, or the  sound of the ocean that is the way to go. The great thing about this as well is you can use this time to reprogram yourself as well. You take control of what is going on with you. Remember the subconscious does not know what is reality and what is not. If you program your subconscious that you are happy, and can accomplish what ever you put your mind to good things will start to happen for you.
Take ten minutes that is not asking a lot for your emotional and physical well being. When you are in a state of calm use affirmations to let your subconscious know what you want to be reality. Say it over and over again. Every chance you get, while driving, just before you go to sleep is a great time to do this. Take the time to regroup, Take the time for YOU! This is a form of self hypnosis. I would like to recommend this book as well. Hypnosis for Beginners by William W. Hewitt. Check it out it has wonderful information in it. But as always. If you are experiencing PTSD or any other disorder please seek out the help of a professional.www.eftandnlp2.com Stacey Giovanni
Just food for thought.

EFT helping to heal trauma

Hi everyone:
I am an emotional freedom practitioner and survivor of abuse and trauma. Having said that, I would like to expound on that subject in this blog. I used hypnosis and EFT to overcome abuse and trauma. Let me explain how this works. When you have a trauma, it is stored in the body. By that I mean just this. The body is made up of electrical systems.. Hence when you have an EKG, they are measuring that electrical systems.. If there is no electrical system, you no long exist. Simple as that. We work with the same meridian systems the acupuncturist work with. The only difference is we tap on those systems we don't use needles. And for some of you including me that is a blessing. When you have been in a trauma that trauma is stored in the body. Let me give you an example. Think of something that has bothered you or made you a little angry. Don't go into anything large. Just something small like someone cut you off in your car. You will feel that little Zing in your system. Pay attention to where that is in your body. That is what we work with. This is a block in your energy system. I has been proven that a block may manifest itself into a physical issue if not addressed. When we are stressed out for example we may have a headache as a result, or our blood pressure may go up. These are examples of what we call in the field, mind body connections. I use hypnosis as well as EFT when I work with trauma survivors for this reason. The EFT takes care of the blocks, the hypnosis helps to eliminate the negative self talk that can block you progress to move forward from the event it self. I will talk more about that in my next blog. I would like to refer all of you to a wonderful website that give valuable free information. Please visit this and take notes. www. emofree.com. I can't begin to tell you how helpful this can be for you. I must say however, if you are experiencing PTSD, panic attacks, or any other disorders, please seek  professional help. Till next time, everyone please have a wonderful day. www.eftandnlp2.com Stacey Giovanni

Negative Talk Hurts

Hi Everyone:
This blog is about how negative talk leads into negative actions. This means if you reticule  someone enough the subconscious reacts to that and sometimes makes that be a reality. Negative talk leads to negative actions. In the case of children, it is really the case. Our children look to us as examples of who they should be. If we are always cutting them down, their perception of that may be that is who they are. Again negative talk leads to negative actions. If their self esteem is in the toilet how do they react. Sometimes, they withdrawal, sometimes they act out. If this is the case with your child look back at the dialogue you are having with your child. Try praising them for the accomplishments they have done. Try really talking to them and better yet listening to them. As adults we tend to get caught up in our daily drudge and take it out on other people. I know I did that, and unfortunately because I am not perfect still do with out really thinking about it. We have to be careful of what we say and especially what we do. We are our children's role models. We are the pinocle of who they think they should emulate. What example are we setting as parents? If we are not available to be there for our children to talk to and really listen to what they have to say, who will they turn to? Just food for thought.
Have a great day

HOW TO MOVE FORWARD AFTER TRAUMA

Hi Everyone:
I hope everyone is doing well today. I want to blog today about moving forward after trauma. I am a survivor of child abuse, sexual assault and domestic violence. I found it was hard to move forward even after I began healing. Why? In my opinion is was because I was afraid to number one be judged if I talked about what had happened to me and number two I was just plain stuck in my comfort zone. Strange as it may sound when you have experienced a trauma you get stuck in that state of misery. As bad as it was you are afraid to move forward, afraid you will not be successful in staying in the healed state of mind.You actually get used to misery. That is a sad thing to say, however that is exactly what happens. A lot of that feeling has to do with low self-esteem, and feelings of low self worth. For those of you out there that have experienced trauma of abuse you can relate to what I am saying. How do you get out of that rut? First thing, at least what worked for me was to educate myself on what made me feel the way I did. I read everything I could get my hands on that anything to do with how the human mind functions. This gave me my sense of control back. I could actually help myself and not depend on someone else for help. However, as a good friend of mine says, "Michele Rosenthaler" we heal in community. So true. Even though I was taking the first step forward on my own I needed people around me I could trust. That is very important. Trust. We loose that when we have been abused. For those of you that have not been subjected to abuse, my words to you are as follows. Please still educate yourself on abuse issues. Someday, I hope not but someone you care about may be a victim of abuse. A friend, a family member, or a neighbor. The words you say can be the difference of her going to get help or staying stuck in abuse. Just food for thought have a great day.
Stacey Giovanni www.eftandnlp2.com