HOW TO MOVE FORWARD AFTER TRAUMA

Hi Everyone:
I hope everyone is doing well today. I want to blog today about moving forward after trauma. I am a survivor of child abuse, sexual assault and domestic violence. I found it was hard to move forward even after I began healing. Why? In my opinion is was because I was afraid to number one be judged if I talked about what had happened to me and number two I was just plain stuck in my comfort zone. Strange as it may sound when you have experienced a trauma you get stuck in that state of misery. As bad as it was you are afraid to move forward, afraid you will not be successful in staying in the healed state of mind.You actually get used to misery. That is a sad thing to say, however that is exactly what happens. A lot of that feeling has to do with low self-esteem, and feelings of low self worth. For those of you out there that have experienced trauma of abuse you can relate to what I am saying. How do you get out of that rut? First thing, at least what worked for me was to educate myself on what made me feel the way I did. I read everything I could get my hands on that anything to do with how the human mind functions. This gave me my sense of control back. I could actually help myself and not depend on someone else for help. However, as a good friend of mine says, "Michele Rosenthaler" we heal in community. So true. Even though I was taking the first step forward on my own I needed people around me I could trust. That is very important. Trust. We loose that when we have been abused. For those of you that have not been subjected to abuse, my words to you are as follows. Please still educate yourself on abuse issues. Someday, I hope not but someone you care about may be a victim of abuse. A friend, a family member, or a neighbor. The words you say can be the difference of her going to get help or staying stuck in abuse. Just food for thought have a great day.
Stacey Giovanni www.eftandnlp2.com