Who Are They

Hi everyone:
I have found in my life there are some people that are just down right not right for us. It is my opinion, if someone is not cheering you on and challenging you to be your best they are not the right people to be in your life. Les Brown says, " You can go a lot farther with someone running with you then you can with someone jumping on your back for a ride." So true. I think we all have people in our life's like that at one point or another. The question is what do we do about it? If it is a family member how do we deal with that. I think the best thing to do is work on ourselves. I tell my clients that we can't help what other do or say. But we can help how it impacts us emotionally. If we have negative people around us sooner or later it is going to affect us if we are not doing something to counter act the negative talk. The negative talk of others becomes our own negative self talk. This can put up super sized road blocks for us to be able to be successful or just plain grow. I personally try to stay away from these kind of people, however sometimes that can be a difficult thing to do. I say counter the negative with the positive. If you are doing some of the exercises I have written in my blog I would like to know how this is working for you. We can make our own reality. You have the power. Remember that. Just ask yourself. Are these people inspiring you, are they encouraging

you to be the best you can be? Just food for thought.
www.eftandnlp2.com.

Addiction The Mask I Wear

Hi Everyone:
This blog is about masking your pain with self medicating. By that I mean using drugs or alcohol to avoid feeling the pain after a trauma. This happens often unfortunately. Sometimes it happens by accident. When we are on prescription medication it is easy to get addicted. When I was in the substance abuse field I took a survey of the women that came into the facility to deal with their addiction. I found 95 percent of the women that came in their had some kind of abuse issue. In my women's abuse group I found that 70 percent of them had never talked to anyone about it before the group. That is shocking. The moral of the story is self medicating is not the answer. We have to deal with our issues. Scarey as it may be. We can never give up. Abuse is not your fault. I have found that masking the pain is like putting a bandage on a gaping wound. Sooner or later we have to deal with the underline issues of what is really going on. We heal in community, please find your community and get some help. Your life is to valuable. Just food for thought.
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Stop That Negative Self Talk

Hi Everyone:
My blog today is about negative self talk. We all experience it. at one time in our lives. Where does that little voice inside us come from? Well from what I have read and experienced personally it comes from what we hear from others. That becomes our belief in what we can achieve or accomplish. In my case at least because I was brought up in a negative environment that negative talk like, your stupid, you will never amount to anything resonated in my head for years. I did not put two and two together for a long time. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship. Let me clarify something. Verbal abuse is still abuse. When you are demanded constantly it becomes your view of your self worth. You respond accordingly in your daily life. Like attracts like. Meaning if you feel you are not worth anything that is the kind of person you attract. It happens like magic. I know from experience it happened to me constantly. It wasn't until I figured out how to get past the negative self talk that things started to change for me. Here is some of the things I did. First thing I did was to understand what was going on with me. I have covered that already. Moving on. The next thing is to start to reprogram the negative into the positive. How you may ask, simple everyone time a negative talk inside me said I couldn't do something I countered with a positive YES I can. I literally shouted my negative self talk down. No out loud of course. I did not want to look like I was loon. But in my head I sure did, loud and clear. Guess what it the negative talk shut up. Next I reprogrammed myself with positive affirmations. I used as what we call in NLP an anchor. By this I mean putting my index finger and my thumb together and saying a positive affirmation that depicted what I wanted to happen. Do this often, in fact do it every time you think of it. Next when I went to bed I visualized what I wanted in full blown color and vivid detail. I did this because this in essence tells my subconscious what I want. I have said over and over the subconscious does not know what is reality and what is not. Do this consistently. I do this just before I go to sleep. This is  really self hypnosis. Try it and get back with me. Let me know your progress. Don't give up. It won't work in a few day. You have to be consistent with it. But it will work. If you are a survivor of abuse this will do wonders for you to help regain your sense of control and self-esteem.
Just food for thought

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Living with Fear

Hi Everyone:
Hope everyone is well today. Today's blog is about fear. When we have a trauma we go into fight or flight mode. But as well we can go into freeze response. This means the trauma stays in the body. It is in the electrical system as well in our energy systems of our body. In the wild an animal that is being  hunted by a predator will run and if they feel they can no longer run they play dead. If they are lucky enough to escape the predator eating them, they get up and shake. The tremors actually deplete the trauma out of their body's However we do not do that and so we hold those traumas in us. So when we have a traumatic event happen and do not address it, it will stay with us on a subconscious level and is stored in our bodies. We may not even realize it is still a part of us. When someone is attacked we may go into freeze response. Many feelings can result from this. Guilt, feeling like we should have fought back, anger that we did not have the strength at the time to fight back. How do we get rid of this freeze. EFT can help with that significantly. I gave you a web site before in my blog to take a look at. I hope all of you did that. It has been a proven fact that the mind and body are linked together in the sense of trauma if not addressed becoming a physical issue. In a recent blog I talked about doing a little test. I said think of something small and focus on that. You will get a feeling somewhere in your body. That is where the trauma is stored. This is where you need to focus on with the eft. If you are experiencing these things please seek out a professional. This will not go away by itself. I know I experienced panic attacks for many years. I wish I knew what the problem was and a way to fix it long before it got to an extreme level. And for the people that are reading this blog, remember if you are a victim of sexual assault or domestic violence or child abuse. It is not your fault.Get some help. Take your control back. Just food for thought. More on eft and hypnosis next time. Please feel free to comment on my blogs. I invite you to submit a response and let me know what you may want to see in my up coming blogs.
Until then have a wonderful week
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Stop Letting Fear Rule Your Life

Hi Everyone:
Hope you liked the last little thing I have sent you. I found it to be uplifting.This blog today will be about over coming fear.  Fear, we are born with only two fears, the fear of a loud noise and the fear of falling. All other fears are learned. Fear can be a debilitating thing. It can stop us from leaving an abusive situation or stop us from living the lives we want.
We tend to get into a comfort zone sometimes and even though the situation is not the best it is better than going out to the unknown. I found this to be true in trying to leave an abusive relationship. My feelings were this is bad, but what if I get myself into something that is even worse. Sometimes the fear is geared towards just not having enough self -confidence or self- esteem. I think the bottom line is fear is based on your belief systems. Do you believe you are capable of accomplishing anything or do you let fear rule your decisions. Again this is what you belief about yourself. I have talked before in other blogs about where our belief systems come from. I have also given you tools to be able to help yourself change those belief systems if they no longer fit who you are or who you want to be. My question to you is are you working at it? If not, ask yourself why. Are you afraid of success? Or are you afraid of failure. In my case it was a little bit of both. I let my fears rule me to the point I kept living my life in self destruct mode constantly. You see the blogs I write are from personal experience. It takes great courage sometimes to make that move to change. Change can be very scarey. But think of what that change can do not only for you but the people that are around you. If they see a change in you they themselves may be inspired and want to change as well. I can be a positive cycle. Think of how many people you may inspire and do great things for yourself as well. Just food for thought.
Stacey Giovanni, www. eftandnlp2.com

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Stacey

Stress Hurts.

Hi Everyone:
Today's blog is about the impact of stress on the body and the mind. When we encounter
stress in our lives, we have many feelings that accompany that stress. Feelings of being overwhelmed, anger, feelings of having no control over the situation. which can lead to fear and anger. All of these feelings can take a toll on you physically if not addressed. As Veterans I am sure you can relate to these feelings. But as individuals as well we all encounter stress in our live. I comes with being human. The question is how do we deal with the stress in our lives. In my case at least I tend to be naturally high strung. That means that I have to work hard to relax and calm down when thing go wrong in my life. Stress if left unchecked can cause, headaches, high blood pressure and many more physical situations. Medication can only mask the problem. You may feel calm for a while as long as you continue to take those, however I am a firm believer in natural ways to deal with stress as well. The thing I want to emphasize here is you need to take some time for yourself. Meditation can do wonders. Find a quite place, take some deep breaths and put yourself in a place that has given you a sense of peace and happiness. I have found it helpful to get a sound machine. If the rain puts you in a state of peace, or the  sound of the ocean that is the way to go. The great thing about this as well is you can use this time to reprogram yourself as well. You take control of what is going on with you. Remember the subconscious does not know what is reality and what is not. If you program your subconscious that you are happy, and can accomplish what ever you put your mind to good things will start to happen for you.
Take ten minutes that is not asking a lot for your emotional and physical well being. When you are in a state of calm use affirmations to let your subconscious know what you want to be reality. Say it over and over again. Every chance you get, while driving, just before you go to sleep is a great time to do this. Take the time to regroup, Take the time for YOU! This is a form of self hypnosis. I would like to recommend this book as well. Hypnosis for Beginners by William W. Hewitt. Check it out it has wonderful information in it. But as always. If you are experiencing PTSD or any other disorder please seek out the help of a professional.www.eftandnlp2.com Stacey Giovanni
Just food for thought.